I’m not sure whether to speak up or keep quiet. Recently, I stopped in Starbucks to eat lunch. While there, I saw a little girl I know because I’m friends with her mother. She was with her nanny, a woman I have met a few times at drop offs and pick ups.
The child, I’ll call her S, was eating her lunch quietly. Her nanny was engrossed in texting. I thought, ‘Okay, texts happen, no big deal.’ Five minutes later, I walked over to say hello to little S. The nanny kept right on texting, not even looking up to see who was speaking to her charge. I sat back down to finish eating. Twenty or 30 minutes went by, and the babysitter only stopped texting to talk loudly on her phone. The child still sat quietly, looking quite sad and lonely. When I left, the nanny was still on the phone, completely ignoring S.
Was the child in danger? Probably not. But if I’d seen my babysitter texting and yapping the whole time she’s supposed to be having lunch with my daughter, I’d be upset. The scene still bothers me. But does it bother me enough to tell on the nanny? I’m not sure if my friend would appreciate my opinion or be put off by it.
What would you do?