What Do Your Kids Call Other Adults?

BY  |  Monday, Mar 30, 2009 12:45pm  |  COMMENTS (3)


At my daughter’s playgroup, I was having a conversation with the other moms and the topic turned to how we teach our children to address other adults. We were torn on what was the proper etiquette. (Kristen’s kids are working on their good manners at left.) We all want our children to be respectful, but that word means different things to each of us.

Some of the moms feel that it is more respectful for their children to address other adults by Mr. or Mrs. followed by a last name. The other moms felt that was too formal and thought first names were fine. One thing we could all agree on was that using Miss and a first name was way too Southern for us Baristaville moms.

Miss Manners, as you would expect, agrees that children should address adults formally in her advice column at MSN’s online lifestyle page. Personally, I tell my daughter to use Mrs. and a last name, unless the Mom says otherwise. I also prefer to be called Mrs. Gilmore by school-age kids – a sign that I’m officially old and have turned into my mother. The only exceptions are our close friends and we all call them by their first names.

What is your family rule on addressing adults?

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  1. POSTED BY Generically named Mike  |  March 30, 2009 @ 5:19 pm

    Accidentally calling an adult by the wrong name may be rude for a child. But, putting pop-up ads that require multiple clicks to close behind a poll is a rude thing for blogs to do.
    (hint, hint)

  2. POSTED BY threefour.myopenid.com  |  March 31, 2009 @ 12:14 pm

    Seems like this confuses parenthood and marriage. I teach kids to say, ‘Ms.’

  3. POSTED BY EOMama  |  April 07, 2009 @ 8:25 pm

    I’m just relieved that my twins aren’t the only 3-yr-olds who bite their toenails! Yuck.

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