In this week’s Help a Mother Out, a Baristaville mom has a family problem. In this feature, we ask you, our readers and other moms and dads, to help out with your best advice in comments:
Dear Barista Kids,
I have appreciated the feedback your readers have given other parents and I’m hoping they can provide some suggestions for me. I am the parent of 3 young children, ages 2 to 7. I also have a sister and a 10 year old nephew whom I love dearly but have real concerns over my nephew’s influence on my children. If he weren’t my nephew, my children would not be allowed to spend time with him at all. I don’t expect kids to be perfect (God knows mine aren’t), but certain things I don’t tolerate-lying or disrespectful behavior toward adults, teasing or bullying. I’ve witnessed all of the above with him. I’ve attempted to address with my sister and have been met with hostility. There are no consequences and no supervision by her at family gatherings. I’ve spoken with him and handed out consequences when in my home but this has only added to the tension. My fear is the introduction of curse words today, pot smoking tomorrow.
So the deal is, I have a big family, lots of family obligations and two very aging parents who are aware of the problem but long for tranquility in their twilight years. Oh yeah, and my kids love him. How do I find a way to keep peace in the family and also stay true to myself and what I believe is best for my children?
It’s Complicated in South Orange
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