Maplewood psychologist Mark Lowenthal, PsyD, will be holding a reading on Wednesday, May 4, to help launch his new co-authored book Smart Parenting for Smart Kids. The book offers parents practical tips for helping children develop the skills they need to create satisfying lives. Chapters address issues such as tempering perfectionism, coping with cooperation and competition, and developing motivation.
Lowenthal spoke with Barista Kids and explained more about Smart Parenting for Smart Kids:
Why did you write this book?
We wrote the book because both my co-author, Eileen Kennedy-Moore, and I were hearing from a lot of parents in our practices that they felt their kids were smart, but…The “but” could be that their children would get very upset when they would make mistakes, or they would have trouble getting along with other kids, or they would constantly argue with adults… These parents knew that their children were bright, but they would worry because they also knew that it takes more than school smarts to create a satisfying life. When everyone around them keeps telling these children how smart they are and how much they could or should accomplish, they may come to believe that their performance is all that matters.
Our concern was that when kids measure their worth solely in terms of achievement, their self-image becomes distorted. The antidote, we believe, is to help children cultivate a broad self-definition that encompasses not only their abilities but also their humanity; to help children develop the foundation they need to discover their passions, build relationships, sustain effort, and create a life with authentic happiness. We wrote this book to offer parents strategies to help children cope with feelings, embrace learning and build satisfying relationships so that they might become capable, confident, and caring people.
What’s the most important thing parents can do to raise happy, healthy kids?
We can’t really predict how or where our kids are going to end up in their journey through life. It’s their job and their privilege to figure this out. We can try to equip them for this journey by offering loving guidance and support, but we also need to get out of their way so that they can become competent and discover their own path. What matters is not only what our children can do, but also how they touch the lives of those around them. The world will tell our children that their performance matters; but by loving them for more than their abilities, we show our children that they are much more than the sum of their accomplishments.
Smart Parenting for Smart Kids Reading at Barnes & Noble
What:Maplewood psychologist Mark Lowenthal, PsyD, will be holding a reading to help launch his new co-authored book Smart Parenting for Smart Kids, which offers parents practical tips for helping children develop the skills they need to create satisfying lives. Chapters address issues such as tempering perfectionism, coping with cooperation and competition, and developing motivation.
Where: Barnes & Noble, Livingston Mall, 112 Eisenhower Parkway, Livingston, NJ.
When: Wednesday, May 4 at 7 pm.
Cost: Free. Call 973.758.1310 for more information.
In Montclair on the same night, Evelyn Shalom continues her parenting workshops at the Montclair Community Pre-K. Wednesday’s topic, as part of the “Whine & Dine” series, will be Positive Discipline: Continuing the Dialogue.
Positive Discipline: Continuing the Dialogue
What: Whine and Dine parenting series discusses various parenting topics.
Where: The Montclair Community Pre-K, 49 Orange Road, Montclair, NJ, 07042.
When: Wednesday, May 4 from 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm. Dinner and child care provided.
Cost: $5 and $2.50 per child. To register or for further information, contact 973-509-4500.