Montclair Moms Gone Wild: Fantasy or Reality?

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There’s a story on CNN.com today that’s getting the attention of Montclair locals. It’s called “Moms gone wild: ’40-year-old reversion,'” and is about bored moms who party like they’re still 25 and single.

The author of the piece, entertainment writer Shanon Cook, refers to a shocking article on the same topic published on TheAwl.com by Amy Sohn. But she takes the story one step further when she mentions Montclair:

Of course it’s not just a New York thing. When having dinner at a pub in Montclair, New Jersey, my girlfriend, a local, started pointing out patrons she knew who were at the bar cheating on their spouses. They were all parents and none of them seemed to be looking over their shoulders. Later she introduced me to a couple with kids who decided to make their marriage an open one after the wife’s affair with a neighbor was exposed.

I don’t know about you, but my BS alarm is sounding. I don’t think there are many middle-aged moms out cheating on their husbands at a local bar in Montclair. (Wouldn’t they at least go to another town to hook up?) And I’m not the only one. Allison Benedikt of Slate.com agrees. So does Kristin Wald at Barista Kids.

What’s your reaction? Do you know of any “Montclair moms gone wild,” or do you think the story is mostly made-up?

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22 COMMENTS

  1. I’m with you, Dana. Bull-feathers! I’m a married over-40 dad, and I haven’t wanted to party like that since 1999. (Sorry, Prince.) I don’t doubt that there are some bored moms and dads out there, but drug-addled drinking binges and public cheating? Come on. I seriously question whether this is a trend in Montclair. Here, caffeine-fueled Facebooking and overly indulgent parenting seem to be the popular pastimes of the bored-to-tears set.

  2. “Here, caffeine-fueled Facebooking and overly indulgent parenting seem to be the popular pastimes of the bored-to-tears set.”

    HAHAHAHA!!!!

    I would add that the constant DESIRE to relive one’s youth is nothing new, especially when one looks in the mirror and sees his or her mom or dad.

    Me? I’m growing my hair out into a little ‘fro, but I first have to get past the bad hair that looks suspiciously like my dads did (complete with a few greys), so to compensate, I’ve been shopping and buying from myhabit like crazy, so I’ll be freshly pressed with my fashionable grey ‘fro. No cheat in’ needed, just give me a nice pair of bucks, levi’s and a John Varvatos shirt/jacket and I’m fine.

  3. I’m 40, single, local and party like I’m younger then I am and yeah – you’d be in shock and awe at the amount of married people out there with their tale of why they had to go with an open marriage. With a lot of the men my guess is it is only open when they are away from their wives but still I’ve met a few women who talk up marriage to me then make an ass out of themselves hitting on a 25 year old. Sometimes it is funny to watch, other times really, really sad.

  4. Head to the 4sixty6 club in West Orange. You will see heavy duty cheating. Cougars all over the place and men/boys ready & willing.

  5. Oh brother. As if Snooki wasn’t bad enough. Now we’re Cougartown. I have to go out for business a lot and my idea of a fun evening is to sit at home with my husband.

  6. The divorce rate being what is in NJ – and the country – not to mention the continuing decline of overall morality, I can’t understand why this is so difficult to believe.

  7. By the way, I saw the picture and thought it was one of Holly’s lovely elixirs which is why I bothered to read it.

  8. Yep, those married Montclair cougars do exist – I even know a few. Some have been known to prowl Egans and Halcyon. Not that there’s anything wrong with that…

  9. Um, how about the guys (married dads) gone wild? I know THAT is happening locally…. Looks like a double standard with the focus on the moms here. (Even the quote from the article left the pronouns out of it when describing the scene at Egan’s, er, “a pub.”)

  10. It’s at times like this I realize just how sheltered an existence I lead. I don’t know anyone who’s cheating on anyone. I bet if you pointed them out to me, I wouldn’t know who they were unless they were a celebrity or something.

    Are there perhaps a couple separate worlds just living side by side?

  11. My wife doesn’t let me date.

    On a different note. My boss once told me “nothing should suprise you , you just never know” I try not to judge what goes on in another person’s home in terms of their relationship. There are a lot of times where you know someone and say “He’s a great guy” or “what a great wife that guy has” but inside the home things can be completely diferent. Who knows if a spouse got cut of from the good stuff and needs to look elesewhere. It’s not something I would do but if you love your spouse you love them unconditionally and try to hang in there. However, you just never know what someone else is going through and sometimes they just can’t. No situation is cookie cutter and I try not to judge. However, guys or gals running around cheating for no reason espcially if there are kids involved is flat out wrong. Keep it in your pants till the kids are out of the house.

  12. This goes a long way toward explaining why so many guys from the golf club are forming a conga line at my neighbor’s house.

  13. As Spicoli correctly states above, Egan’s/Halcyon are fertile ground. IMHO, people are out to have a little fun, and not everyone is aggressively on the make. You’re as young as you feel, and the longer you feel young the better off you are.

  14. “Keep it in your pants till the kids are out of the house.”

    Well said herb!

    This article upsets me, only because it focuses on moms who are bored with raising kids. When you are a parent, you need to parent. Going out getting wasted, using drugs and cheating on your spouse makes you a jerk of a parent.

  15. “I try not to judge what goes on in another person’s home in terms of their relationship.”

    —well stated, Herb!

    “However, guys or gals running around cheating for no reason espcially if there are kids involved is flat out wrong.”

    —so close, and yet so far, Herb. So much for not judging people.

    That first sentiment is the best. One can NEVER know what goes on in someone else’s relationship, so why pretend you can? i guess it’s that “no reason” that is so striking. How on earth would you know?

  16. Sorry jcunningham…too many words in that post for you to comprehend….I’ll try to provide you with the 3rd grade version next time so you don’t get lost.

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