Montclair Senior of the Month: Carolyn Lack

Monday, Jul 10, 2017 12:30pm  |  COMMENTS (0)

Meet Carolyn Lack, Montclair Senior of the Month for July.

How old are you? 88

Where were you born? Philadelphia

When did you move to Montclair? 1956

Why did you move to Montclair?
Good schools, near NYC, diverse community, beautiful town.

Are you currently employed? If so, doing what? If you had a career, what was it? I was a science teacher in Philadelphia and Bloomfield (and was required to stop when I was 3 months pregnant). I was an interviewer for the Survey Research Center, University of Michigan from 1974-1983, and then worked 24 years at the US Census Bureau, retiring in 2007.

How have you been engaged in the community? League of Women Voters Montclair Area: vice president; moderator for candidates forums; member of State Education committee; active in reform of Essex County and Montclair governments. PTA president, Rand School 1966-68. Montclair Adult School: Board secretary; member of curriculum committee. Montclair Consumer Affairs Advisory Committee 1982-84. NEDAC (North Essex Development and Action Council) Board member and leader of NEDAC Family Communication Workshops 1971-75. Montclair Hadassah Board. Congregation Shomrei Emunah Board of Education 1970-74; Board of Trustees 2000-02. Commissioner, Montclair Redevelopment Agency 1988-95. Tutor, Literacy Volunteers of America. AIM (Aging in Montclair) founding member and secretary.

What are some of the most important lessons you feel you have learned throughout your life? Learning new things is always rewarding, and the satisfying benefits of volunteering and giving are greater than your efforts.

What are your plans for future? How does Montclair fit into these plans? I want to stay in beautiful Montclair to enjoy my family and friends and the many activities here.

If you know of a Montclair senior who should be featured, please call Katie York, Director of Senior Services/Lifelong Montclair, at 973-509-4967

MontClairVoyant: A Parade of Quips About July 4th Parading and GOP Charade-ing

Thursday, Jul 06, 2017 1:15pm  |  COMMENTS (16)



Why wasn’t Upper Montclair’s Trump-supporting congressman Rodney Frelinghuysen chosen as grand marshal for our town’s terrific July 4th parade?

Tom S. Jefferson

Of the world’s 7.5-billion population, Rodney was in the mix as the 7,499,999,999th choice. Better luck next year, Mr. F!

Only Chris “On the Beach” Christie was lower on the list. Meanwhile, I was mailed Frelinghuysen’s Summer 2017 newsletter a few days ago, and now can’t unsee that right-wing Republican’s words. What to do?

Spin Is a Sin

Try a “Harry Potter” memory wipe, like the one Hermione Granger did on her parents in England — though America’s lack of single payer makes that amnesia procedure quite pricey here. Continue Reading

British Book Club in Montclair Seeks New Members

BY  |  Monday, Jul 03, 2017 11:30am  |  COMMENTS (0)

Montclair book lovers gather one Tuesday evening each month to discuss a favorite British book and enjoy light refreshments. The next meeting is Tuesday evening, July 11. The book being discussed is The Horse Dancer by Jojo Moyes. Copies are available by making an inter-library request thru the Montclair Public Library.

The group is seeking new members to replace several who moved away. Monthly meetings are from 7:30 9 pm at the home of Lora Freier, 126 Gates Avenue in Montclair. Everyone is welcome. Please send an email to [email protected] if you will be coming on July 11. Continue Reading

Strike A Patriotic Pose at Portraits By Michael Stahl and Help Support The Human Needs Food Pantry

BY  |  Saturday, Jul 01, 2017 3:00pm  |  COMMENTS (0)

Capture a special 4th of July memory at Portraits by Michael Stahl. The studio (11 Midland Ave., Montclair) will be open on July 4th from 10 a.m. until 1 pm, creating patriotic portraits in exchange for a bag of groceries for the Human Needs Food Pantry (Cans and boxes only; no jars please). Continue Reading

Montclair Public Library Hosts Build A Better Montclair Summer Reading Program For Adults

BY  |  Wednesday, Jun 28, 2017 11:30am  |  COMMENTS (0)

The Montclair Public Library (MPL) Summer Reading theme for adults this year is Build a Better Montclair, which promotes social responsibility and involvement in our community.

MPL encourages residents to join the program and challenge themselves to read one book every week between June 23 and September 8. After completing a book, participants can submit a review to earn chances to win one of two iPad minis or one of many giftcards to Watchung Booksellers. Continue Reading

“Freedom Girl” Fundraiser at Local Coffee, Montclair – 6/22

BY  |  Wednesday, Jun 21, 2017 8:00am  |  COMMENTS (0)

Meet Liv Lombardi, local singer-songwriter at the “Freedom Girl” Fundraiser, a launch party for a big crowd funding campaign I am undertaking in order to raise money for my upcoming record “Freedom Girl” (a set of songs that tell the story of empowerment through music and storytelling), tours and workshop projects. Lombardi decided to team up with YES! (Your Empowered Sexuality) for the event and donate a portion of the money raised to them. YES! is a Montclair based non-profit that aims at raising awareness for shame free, consent based sexual education.

Thursday, June 22, 6-9 p.m.
Local Coffee, 107 Watchung Ave., Montclair
(Drinks and light fare at 6:30, performances will begin at 7:30.)

The Hexi Chix Host First Outdoor Quilt Show, 6/3

BY  |  Wednesday, May 31, 2017 5:36pm  |  COMMENTS (0)

The Hexi Chix, a Montclair based quilt group, will host its first outdoor quilt show this Saturday, June 3, from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m. at Depot Square park on Walnut Street adjacent to the Farmer’s Market.

The Hexi Chix are Lori Beitler, Rochelle Sandler, Margy Schilling, Fern Seaman, Diane Fama and Robin Schlager. There will be over 20 quilts displayed; quilts are hand made, custom designed and fun to look at. Stop by, say hello and ask the quilters about their quilts.

Sisters on The Runway Fashion Show 2017, Friday, May 19

BY  |  Thursday, May 18, 2017 3:15pm

by Domestic Violence.

Come out and support Sisters on the Runway, this Friday, May 19, at their biggest fundraiser of the year – the Spring Fashion Show at the Montclair Women’s Club (82 Union St., Montclair)! Due to the generosity of local Montclair businesses, SOR club members are able to walk the runway in confidence while promoting our community.

Tickets here.

Dear Alma: Dinner Parties, Dinner Guests and The Kitchen Sink

BY  |  Wednesday, May 17, 2017 3:00pm  |  COMMENTS (1)

Dear Alma,

I cannot stand it when guests come over and wash their hands in the kitchen sink instead of going to the bathroom to do it. How do I keep people from doing this in a polite way?

Don’t Splatter Up My Clean Kitchen!

Dear Don’t Splatter Up My Clean Kitchen!,

Hopefully your bathroom is close to the kitchen so it is an easy walk. I would recommend simply asking them to wash up in the bathroom! There is no shame in making a request in your own home. If you feel more comfortable giving a reason, you can simply say you you don’t have towels handy to dry hands in the kitchen. Take note: Don’t have towels visible in the kitchen. Good luck!

Dear Alma,

I go out to dinner often with friends. I have one friend who I like very much but who has an unappealing habit of taking food off my plate with her fork. Why would she do this?? I don’t mind sharing my food but it bothers me to have someone else’s fork on my plate, especially without asking. How should I deal with this?


Dear Skeeved,

You have every right to be skeeved out by this behavior. It is not polite for a variety of reasons, especially if you are very hungry and want all your food! It is proper form, even for close friends, to request a taste, for you to respond and then for you to dole it out and place it on their plate. Who knows why your friend does this. Perhaps it was typical behavior when she was growing up in her family. Maybe she feels very close to you and is treating you as a family member at the dinner table. Whatever her reasons are, we don’t want you to feel uncomfortable dining out with her. Since you like her, it would be a shame for you to decline dinner invitations in the future for fear that she will swipe your salmon.

If you feel comfortable, you can simply say, “let me do that for you” as you cut off a piece of whatever you are eating. You can also take a bit of your dish and offer it to her at the start of the meal, before she even asks, when you have already lifted up a bite. If all else fails, sit on the other end of the table so her hands can’t reach your plate. Good luck!

Dear Alma,

I host a get together every year for my family and one of my family members never tells me if they are going to come until the last minute. If it were just one time that it happened I would not mind so much but it is every single year. I go to a lot of trouble to prepare a nice evening where I plan a menu, set the table nicely and really look forward to everyone being together. It’s also a lot of work!

If it were fear, anxiety or a physical disability that keeps them away I would be more understanding but there is always some trivial excuse. I think it’s because they think something more interesting or fun might come up and they don’t want to commit to our party. For this reason I get really mad when they say they are coming at the last minute. I think it’s very rude and then it puts me in a bad mood for the party I so looked forward to.

I still want them to come but don’t want to be angry. What should I do?

Confused Continue Reading

Celebrating 90 Years of May Bloom: Presby Memorial Iris Gardens!

BY  |  Wednesday, May 17, 2017 1:30pm

This year, Presby memorial Iris Gardens celebrates 90 years of bloom with many special events. The gardens were established in 1927 to honor Frank H. Presby, beloved Montclair resident. Mr. Presby was passionately involved in improving Montclair’s parks and recreation areas and was an early trustee of the Montclair Art Museum. An avid horticulturalist and founding member of the American Iris Society, Mr. Presby loved irises and so it was an iris garden chosen to memorialize his life.

The gardens contain nearly 14,000 irises, approximately 1,500 varieties, which produce over 100,000 blooms each May. It is the only public garden where the comprehensive planting of bearded iris evolution may be viewed. The continuum of iris, dating from the 1500s to today, delights the modernist as well as historic iris enthusiasts.


Family Garden Party
Saturday, May 20 from 11 a.m. to 3 p.m.
Essex County Family Garden Party is a free community event sponsored by the Essex County Department of Parks, Recreation and Cultural Affairs with entertainment, crafts, face painting, booths from local organizations such as the Essex County Environmental Center and Master Gardeners, and various food trucks. A student art exhibit will also be featured. Rain date: Sunday, May 21.

Live Jazz Music
Weekends during Bloom Season (now through June 2) from 4 p.m. to 6 p.m.

TaikoZoku Japanese Drumming Show
Sunday, May 21 from 4 p.m. to 6 p.m.
Hear the thrilling sounds of this Japanese style drum troupe from Glenn Weber’s New Jersey School of Percussion in West Orange.

Outdoor Movie Screening Disney’s Moana
Saturday, June 3 at 9 p.m.
Hosted by the Montclair Film Festival and Essex County Parks System.

The Essex County Presby Memorial Iris Gardens is located at 474 Upper Mountain Avenue in Upper Montclair. During bloom season, admission is a suggested $8 donation to help fund garden costs. The Gardens are open daily from dawn until dusk.

Click for more information about the Essex County Presby Memorial Iris Gardens and the 2017 Bloom Season.

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