Sisters on The Runway Fashion Show 2017, Friday, May 19

BY  |  Thursday, May 18, 2017 3:15pm

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Come out and support Sisters on the Runway, this Friday, May 19, at their biggest fundraiser of the year – the Spring Fashion Show at the Montclair Women’s Club (82 Union St., Montclair)! Due to the generosity of local Montclair businesses, SOR club members are able to walk the runway in confidence while promoting our community.

Tickets here.

Dear Alma: Dinner Parties, Dinner Guests and The Kitchen Sink

BY  |  Wednesday, May 17, 2017 3:00pm  |  COMMENTS (1)

Dear Alma,

I cannot stand it when guests come over and wash their hands in the kitchen sink instead of going to the bathroom to do it. How do I keep people from doing this in a polite way?

Don’t Splatter Up My Clean Kitchen!

Dear Don’t Splatter Up My Clean Kitchen!,

Hopefully your bathroom is close to the kitchen so it is an easy walk. I would recommend simply asking them to wash up in the bathroom! There is no shame in making a request in your own home. If you feel more comfortable giving a reason, you can simply say you you don’t have towels handy to dry hands in the kitchen. Take note: Don’t have towels visible in the kitchen. Good luck!

Dear Alma,

I go out to dinner often with friends. I have one friend who I like very much but who has an unappealing habit of taking food off my plate with her fork. Why would she do this?? I don’t mind sharing my food but it bothers me to have someone else’s fork on my plate, especially without asking. How should I deal with this?


Dear Skeeved,

You have every right to be skeeved out by this behavior. It is not polite for a variety of reasons, especially if you are very hungry and want all your food! It is proper form, even for close friends, to request a taste, for you to respond and then for you to dole it out and place it on their plate. Who knows why your friend does this. Perhaps it was typical behavior when she was growing up in her family. Maybe she feels very close to you and is treating you as a family member at the dinner table. Whatever her reasons are, we don’t want you to feel uncomfortable dining out with her. Since you like her, it would be a shame for you to decline dinner invitations in the future for fear that she will swipe your salmon.

If you feel comfortable, you can simply say, “let me do that for you” as you cut off a piece of whatever you are eating. You can also take a bit of your dish and offer it to her at the start of the meal, before she even asks, when you have already lifted up a bite. If all else fails, sit on the other end of the table so her hands can’t reach your plate. Good luck!

Dear Alma,

I host a get together every year for my family and one of my family members never tells me if they are going to come until the last minute. If it were just one time that it happened I would not mind so much but it is every single year. I go to a lot of trouble to prepare a nice evening where I plan a menu, set the table nicely and really look forward to everyone being together. It’s also a lot of work!

If it were fear, anxiety or a physical disability that keeps them away I would be more understanding but there is always some trivial excuse. I think it’s because they think something more interesting or fun might come up and they don’t want to commit to our party. For this reason I get really mad when they say they are coming at the last minute. I think it’s very rude and then it puts me in a bad mood for the party I so looked forward to.

I still want them to come but don’t want to be angry. What should I do?

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Celebrating 90 Years of May Bloom: Presby Memorial Iris Gardens!

BY  |  Wednesday, May 17, 2017 1:30pm

This year, Presby memorial Iris Gardens celebrates 90 years of bloom with many special events. The gardens were established in 1927 to honor Frank H. Presby, beloved Montclair resident. Mr. Presby was passionately involved in improving Montclair’s parks and recreation areas and was an early trustee of the Montclair Art Museum. An avid horticulturalist and founding member of the American Iris Society, Mr. Presby loved irises and so it was an iris garden chosen to memorialize his life.

The gardens contain nearly 14,000 irises, approximately 1,500 varieties, which produce over 100,000 blooms each May. It is the only public garden where the comprehensive planting of bearded iris evolution may be viewed. The continuum of iris, dating from the 1500s to today, delights the modernist as well as historic iris enthusiasts.


Family Garden Party
Saturday, May 20 from 11 a.m. to 3 p.m.
Essex County Family Garden Party is a free community event sponsored by the Essex County Department of Parks, Recreation and Cultural Affairs with entertainment, crafts, face painting, booths from local organizations such as the Essex County Environmental Center and Master Gardeners, and various food trucks. A student art exhibit will also be featured. Rain date: Sunday, May 21.

Live Jazz Music
Weekends during Bloom Season (now through June 2) from 4 p.m. to 6 p.m.

TaikoZoku Japanese Drumming Show
Sunday, May 21 from 4 p.m. to 6 p.m.
Hear the thrilling sounds of this Japanese style drum troupe from Glenn Weber’s New Jersey School of Percussion in West Orange.

Outdoor Movie Screening Disney’s Moana
Saturday, June 3 at 9 p.m.
Hosted by the Montclair Film Festival and Essex County Parks System.

The Essex County Presby Memorial Iris Gardens is located at 474 Upper Mountain Avenue in Upper Montclair. During bloom season, admission is a suggested $8 donation to help fund garden costs. The Gardens are open daily from dawn until dusk.

Click for more information about the Essex County Presby Memorial Iris Gardens and the 2017 Bloom Season.

Montclair Y Hosts Syria Supper Club

BY  |  Monday, May 08, 2017 3:45pm

Montclair YMCA invite you to share a special meal with the Syria Supper Club, an organization dedicated to supporting families of Syrian refugees recently settled in New Jersey. The meal will be prepared by one or more of our new Syrian neighbors who will share their traditional cooking skills in a table full of traditional Syrian food. Help welcome our new neighbors. Enjoy the food, conversation and making friends. 100% of the proceeds benefit our Syrian neighbors. Register here. Learn more here.

Syria Supper Club
When: Saturday, May 20, 6-9 PM
Where: Geyer Family Branch, YMCA OF MONTCLAIR, 159 Glenridge Avenue, Montclair, 973-783-7640
Donation: $50 per Adult; $30 per Child

MontClairVoyant: Montclair Was a Strange Yet Familiar Place 4,000 Years Ago

BY  |  Thursday, May 04, 2017 1:00pm


With Trump and other far-right Republicans setting back humanity countless years, wouldn’t this be a good time to reprint your first “Montclairvoyant” column?

G.O. Peeved

Yes! It’s from 2017 BC, when Lenape citizens couldn’t get Grunt R. Frelinghuysen to hold a “cave hall” meeting. Here’s that column from 4,034 years ago, when my hair was slightly less gray:

Why did the Planning Board allow developer Oog V. Oog to build eight mud huts where a twig hut now stands on Unpleasant Dirt Lane?

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Sponsored: Bradford Bath and Tennis Club Hosts Open Houses on May 7 and 21

Thursday, Apr 27, 2017 2:15pm


If this beautiful spring weather makes you long for warm summer nights – we have the perfect summer place for you!

Bradford Bath and Tennis Club will open its doors on Sunday, May 7 and May 21, from 3-5 p.m. Potential members can see our beautiful facilities and learn more about membership.



Bradford Bath and Tennis Club (BBTC) is a member-owned club tucked away on the hilltop edge above Upper Montclair. BBTC has seven sprawling acres of beautifully manicured grounds and provides a spectacular setting overlooking the NYC skyline. BBTC has two large heated pools, a safe baby pool, a newly renovated snack bar, a SportCourt, paddle court and eight clay tennis courts. BBTC offers plenty of options for you and your family to stay active and also cool off all summer.

The best part of BBTC are all the great members and fun things to do:

  • BBTC offers tennis for the beginner to advanced players in your family.
  • There are summer camp options for children 5 years old and older.
  • There is a swim team for school aged children.
  • We even offer a swim program for adults who want to work on their stroke or some good exercise.

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Montclair Arbor Day: Free Tree Giveaway Event and Family Fun, 4/30

BY  |  Tuesday, Apr 25, 2017 11:38am

Montclair residents looking to enrich their yards and benefit the environment by planting and preserving shade trees on their properties can join the Montclair Environmental Commission for an Arbor Day event on Sunday April 30th between 9am and noon.

Shade trees can reduce increase property values, reduce cooling costs, remove carbon and air pollutants, and provide wildlife habitats, among other benefits. The Montclair Town Council officially approved a proclamation naming April 28th as Arbor Day in Montclair. The event will be held on the northeast edge of Edgemont Memorial Park.

Between 9am and noon, Montclair residents can come by to pick up free 2 foot high tree seedlings, for as long as supplies last. The varieties will include Flowering Dogwood, Black Gum, Eastern White Pine and Northern Red Oak.

Families can also participate in a tree scavenger hunt and earn the chance to win prizes donated by Montclair’s American Royal Hardware and Learning Express as well as a Watchung Booksellers gift basket worth $50 for one winner.
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MPL Presents Open Book/Open Mind Series: Dr. Elisabeth Rosenthal in Conversation with Dr. Richard Besser

BY  |  Wednesday, Apr 19, 2017 9:00am

On April 30, Montclair Public Library & Foundation will present the next Open Book / Open Mind Series: Editor-in-chief of Kaiser Health News and award-winning former New York Times reporter Dr. Elisabeth Rosenthal in conversation about healing American healthcare with Dr. Richard Besser, President and CEO of the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation and formerly ABC News’s Chief Health and Medical editor and the acting director of the American Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and Agency for Toxic Substances and Disease Registry (ATSDR).

Rosenthal will reveal the dangerous, expensive, and dysfunctional American healthcare system, and tells us exactly what we can do to solve its myriad problems in her new book An American Sickness: How Healthcare Became Big Business and How You Can Take It Back.

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Happy Easter!

Sunday, Apr 16, 2017 8:30am

happy easterBaristanet wishes you and yours a very Happy Easter! And Kalo Pascha for all celebrating Eastern Orthodox Easter.

Inspirational Forum Is Highlight of the Montclair Center Women’s Empowerment Week

BY  |  Thursday, Apr 06, 2017 1:15pm

Women's Empowerment Forum

On Tuesday night at The Wellmont Theater, women gathered for a panel discussion with local women of distinction at the first Women’s Empowerment Forum. The event was part of Montclair Center’s Women’s Empowerment Week, an annual event to benefit SAVE of Essex, the county’s only designated rape care center and a program of the Family Service League.

The Q&A was masterfully moderated by local entrepreneur Donna Miller, founder & president of C3Workplace. Miller asked thoughtful questions and kept the dialogue moving with the five panelists and the audience.

Panelists were WOR radio host Joan Herrmann; nationally recognized career and life coach Laura Berman Fortgang;  producer and activist Peg Cafferty; Executive director of the Montclair Fund for Education (MFEE) Masiel Rodriquez-Vars; and business owner and teacher Omni Kitts Ferrara. Fourth Ward Councilor Dr. Renee Baskerville was scheduled to appear, but wasn’t on the panel Tuesday night.

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